Sunday, March 27, 2005

Carie-catures of love

Well, i'm obviously not an expert on love, (and i refer you to my sad track record at this point), but i sort of liked this idea. A friend of mine sent it to me, and it makes a lot of sense for past loves and relationships of all kinds. Anyway, enough of my mutterings.

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game oflove, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go! You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not part of it.
Everything happens for the best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try. You'll never love a person you love unless you risk for love.

Love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, you don't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time. Though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall. You just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing it's chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering and growing. The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves. On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don't ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.

To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risk nothing! To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self, to love is to risk not to be loved in return. How to define love: fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain.

Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last for a lifetime. Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength.

But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom who they choose to be and where they choose to be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks, for you know, that there were the things that helped you grow.

Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way, whether it leads towards you or away from you. Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only then you'll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love. Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire and tear you apart.

Only love can make you cry and only love knows why. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk, if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love.

There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love because every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that's why it's called falling in love.

Whatever happened, don't give up! It is just a trial.


LIFE IS NOT MEASURED BY THE NUMBER OF BREATHS WE TAKE BUT BY THE MOMENTS THAT TAKE OUR BREATH AWAY!

One of my best guy friends once told me that he was praying for my husband. I loved that and i think i'll remember it forever. The fact that somebody cares for me enough to pray about my (unknown) future is awesome!I sometimes feel scared to ask God for a husband 'cos it seems like its never going to happen! But i know God's got a plan for me and my future, and I just have to be patient. (Its really the annoying part - ask my mom - i'm really not a very patient girl!) But since then i've started praying for his wife and the spouse of other best friends and especially for my own husband - asking God to keep us both pure and make us ready for each other!

AWWW! Now i'm all soppy and romantic! Think i should go watch me some Princess Bride!

~ Car

1 comment:

rochelle laura knox said...

when will i come home? GOOD QUESTION! i'm actually off to bkk to change my return flight this weekend. sometime in august i guess. i work till july 29th. and then need to get to queen's by term start date (don't know when that is). can't decide if i want one or two extra weeks to travel in thailand or if i want to spend that time in sask - maybe head north, do a canoe trip, visit my camp... and of course i need loads of time just to kick aroun s'toon with my dear friends. cause i won't be sticking around in the fall. scary! dang i miss you carie! i'm going to try to call you in the next couple days. the computer is insufficient. i must hear your voice.